It just hit me the other night that we have a birthday quickly approaching. In two weeks Nick will be 12 and I can hardly believe it. How is it that he has grown up right before my very eyes?
He is no longer that little boy permanantly attached to my hip. Each day I have constant reminders that those days are far gone. He is now morphing into an outgoing young man.
The past 6 months have brought a lot of change. First of all he has had a pretty good growth spurt and is now eye to eye with me…..when I am wearing heels:) In addition, I have seen a big difference in his independence with things like homework and studying. He is such a responsible and organized kid it blows me away.
We have also had a lot of discussions surrounding things like clothes, shoes, hairstyles, cell phones and music. He is definitely voicing his opinions and wants to start making these decisions himself…..~sigh~
For me, it has been kind of difficult to let go and give him a little space to make his own decisions and allow him to work on who he really wants to be.
It is extra hard in this day age because of all the things our children are exposed to on TV, the internet, and other types of media. Our kids look up to these young stars and want to be like them and emulate them in every way. You just have to hope and pray that you instilled the right morals and values so that they will make the right choices.
I don’t know about you, but when I go to the mall or the movie theatre and look around, I am appalled at what I see. Girls that are Nick’s age dressing in clothes that…..ahem….don’t necessarily fit. You know what I mean…..very little is left to the imagination in some cases. And it is not just the girls…..the boys and their pants that are 6 sizes too large belted around their thighs with their underwear hanging out….OMG, some of them can’t even walk correctly because if they do their drawers will be around their ankles. While I have given Nick a little “space” to make his own decisions about his appearance, that is one look I absolutely forbid and he knows it.
After two years of saying no to a cell phone, Pat and I finally caved and let Nick get one in August. He saved up his money to buy the phone and we added him to our family plan. I know there are plenty of kids out there that are much younger with cell phones for a variety of reasons, but we were not ready to hand one over so fast. He has proven to be very responsible with it and I have to admit, with the back and forth from our house and his Dad’s, it is nice to just call him on his cell phone when we would like to talk to him.
So, that is my little update on Nick and a glimpse into the “tweenage years” for those of you who haven’t experienced them yet.
It is hard to sit back and let them grow up and find their way, but you have to let go at some point. I will just be standing by with a safety net in hand ready to rescue and assist when needed.
Even though his looks, words, and actions are telling me he is turning into a young man, I still look into his eyes and see my little boy. I think I always will…….